mmmmm.... malasnya

the title says it all. This so-called blogger is so darn lazy to layan this blog. If not for an email from a friend, asking me if I will ever sambung my funny story part2, I would not be signing in to this site at all.

Anyway, this friend of mine wants to know the other tickling story of mine but aku malas lah.... nanti ya.. i promise...

But just a quick update ... oh no.. tak jadi. A friend just called and she's coming over! Nasib baik I have dusted the house this morning.....

Tada!

When I need to laugh - Part1

Whenever I am down and in need of a real good laugh, all I have to do is remember the two funny incidents in my life and I always will laugh. Guaranteed punya. I thought I might as well pen them down before old age steals the memories away from me.
But I will only share the first story. Second story later.

Story 1 :

I was a cikgu sandaran in Kuching High School (a Chinese-based school) in 1993. I was the form teacher for a Form 4 class, the class that was most likely will not do well in their  SPM and sorry to say, in their  future careers!! (er, if any of them accidentally found this blog, pls do leave a comment and tell me what you do right now, ya cos I might be wrong about you guys back then. )
Anyway, one fine day I was asked by the headmaster to update these kids' information cards - you know the ones where one of the questions were about our ambitions etc.
Apparently, some of these kids' infos were not updated for like 2 years or so.
One girl, I asked her what clubs she was in that year, she said nothing. I was about to dismiss her when she quickly told me there was one club she would love to be in but had no confidence to join.
Me : which one?
She : Moo-gic
Me : What? You have that club here? (I was thinking Magic)
She : Got but I scared one.
Me : Well, you should be. My school never had that club. (and out of the blue, I just laughed!)
She : Teacher, apa lu ketawa?
Me : (trying to be serious) Ok... so you want to join Magic Club but you scared. Mmm.. I wonder why (and I laughed again!)
She : (laughing too) No, teacher. Moo-gic, not mayy-gic. MOOGIC.
And then it dawned on me what she was saying : MUSIC!!
Both of us laughed!

My next student was a boy named Alex. And my God, this one was one naughty boy. He and the other one (I forgot his name) never got along. All they did was FIGHT. But I tolerated Alex better than the other one because he can be funny too.

Me: So Alex, what is your cita-cita?
Alex : Security
Me :  ???
ALex : like itu guard but jaga swimming pool
Me : Oh, lifeguard. (I could already hear laughter at the back of my own head! And out of curiosity I asked why he wanted to become one)
Alex : Macam bapak saya ma....
Me : But you can do better than that what... (that was me trying to become an encouraging I believe-in-you teacher)
Alex : No lah. Saya tidak pandai. (and in a very broken english he said... ) .... if itu (pointing to his enemy at the back of the class) punya anak mahu drown in the pool, saya no help. Ha... ha... ha  (sinister laugh some more from that Alex!)
Me : (stiffling a laughter, I had to excuse myself from the classroom. And in the school balcony, I could have rolled on the floor laughing! I did not roll on the floor but I laughed so hard, , my eyes were all wet!)

LOL.... those moments in that school will never be forgotten. Too many hilarious stories during my 2-month stint there. :) And sometimes I wonder what happened to some of the kids in that class. The MOOGIC girl had potential if only she socialised a bit.
Alex....I hope he has quit smoking....and not become just a lifeguard. And his enemy, I hope he was never jailed because man, he was Trouble!

How to deal with a tween???

Nina has been giving me pains in the heart lately -- and I have been quite Bersabar until today. Today, I broke down because I feel like I am at my wits' end. If I do A, she might do this, if I do B, she might do that.

When I was 12, I don't think I had given my parents too much trouble. I was a reasonably good girl. I stayed within limits of my parents' rules and regulations.

Sometimes I wonder if things would have been different if we had remained in Malaysia. I think it would but we are here already so I really can't dwell on that.

Maybe she is going through a phase and once she's gone past it, things would be better.

Sometimes I feel like I want to blame my husband for "spoiling and indulging" her. Her clothes are from branded stores, her shoes are way too pricey for her age, and just because all her friends in school have BB, she wanted one too and darn it, she eventually got one too! At the same time, he imposed a lot of don'ts in her life. And given her "savviness" in IT,   it's easy for her to "manipulate" us parents in thinking that she is observing the don'ts when she is really not.

I had tried my damn hard to become an understanding mom. To become her friend whom she can talk to about everything. I was young once too, I would tell her. I thought we were okay ...

When she used to have a diary, I gave her all the privacy she wanted and never once I read the contents. Even when I came upon them accidentally, I kept the contents to myself and never judged her. But this time around, I "hacked" into her laptop and what I found, I don't like and I am finding it hard not to judge her.

But it's her exam week and I can't be emotionally stressing her. But I am sad, dissappointed, angry ... I want my sweet child back! Ya Allah, please give me strength .... and show me the right way.

Nina, if you ever read this one day... you really made me cried today.

Amir's "fashion" show

School is almost out here. Four more weeks to go. And only today, for the first time since I got here, I went to Amir's school to give him the much needed moral support a child needs from his/her parents. Finally! I had missed his sports day, international costume day, and his swimming gala and I am so ashamed to admit this really. Especially, when I had never missed any of my children's school activities back in KL,came rain or shine. Even when their sports day was held on a working day, I applied for leave. I NEVER missed any event. But since I came here, I became very calculative that  I had chosen not to attend any activities in their schools just because I can't stand the crazy, unreasonable taxi fares.

Like today, I spent 100 riyal on taxi!! Gila you! That's like a third of our weekly grocery spending. I knew it would cost me but I had enough of "hurting" my children's feelings. My excuse for not attending Amir's other  school event before this - what I told him lah - was because of Imran. He would be running around here and there out of boredom and in the end, I would not be able to focus on his big brother's main event. And most of the times, Amir and Nina would say they understand.

But for Amir's school assembly where his class is doing some songs and dances on fashion and Amir being given some lines to recite out loud (listening to him practising the lines this past week and sounding very British at it!), I promised him I would not miss it for the world.

And I am glad I did. As the kids appeared on stage I could see how their eyes and faces lit up when each of them spotted their parents at the back of the hall. I got teary-eyed a bit actually as I was overwhelmed with guilt for missing his previous performances/participation. And at the end of the show, when all the kids ran down the stage to hug their parents, I am HAPPY that I did not let Amir down.

A few of the pupils did not have their parents there and they looked so heartbroken, I felt sorry for them. One Malay girl, upon noticing that I am Amir's mom, came to me shyly and I felt like hugging her! She told me her mom can't come because "adik demam." I hope it's true because from what I heard, her parents hardly never turned up to other events too. Well, they missed quite a show because her performance was better than Amir's!

Next week is Nina's swimming gala. She said she wants me to come and I said, see first lah. I have to fair what? I had missed Amir's swimming gala but have attended Nina's choir show and Alice the Musical play (both were held at night and the ride was FOC of course courtesy of Papa).

But I told them, next year I will try not to miss anything more. Because Imran will start his school next year and I will ride the FREE school bus at 7am even if the show/event starts at 10am or 12pm, I would not mind the long wait because I am a caring and cheap mom!

My kids

Amir woke up this morning and immediately told me of this "dream" (err, no, no, it's a nightmare, he quickly said) last night. Being a long-winded person that boy is - he tells stories from L to W, before going back to A to K, then jumped to almost Z before he realised he missed X and Y! - so you must really have great patience and a lot of time to listen to his stories. And in the morning, when I am busy in the kitchen, rushing to make breakfast, I ain't really the best listener but I gave my best.

His dream or nightmare as he said : (after mummy edited to make it coherent)

Amir mimpi Amir dengan papa and mummy kat Jeddah airport nak balik Malaysia. And then bila sampai Malaysia, Amir nampak Azri kat airport (Azri is his most closest cousin). Ok lagi tu. Tapi Azri tak de kereta, so we walked lah to rumah kita. Masa walking tu, Amir nampak Burj Dubai! (Of all the things! he spends too much time on google earth that boy). After that, we reached home but it was Jeddah, not KL. Tapi bila Amir tengok kat luar, ada pulak KLCC. (at this point, I was like, mana nightmare ni??) And then mummy and papa hilang, and I searched everywhere tapi tak de. Amir takut. Amir cari-cari lagi sampai Amir reached KLCC tapi mummy papa tak de. Lastly, I went home and bila masuk rumah tu, it looked exactly macam rumah kat Jeddah. Suddenly, nampak mummy and papa, keluar from that! - (he pointed to the washer in the kitchen!) It was so scary... "(itu rupanya nightmare dia. Ha.. ha...) Like that Japanese movie where the ghost comes out from the tv set, except we probably came out all twisted or mutilated from all the spinning and rinsing in the washer! I can't help but laughed when he finished his story. For the first time, I did not mind his incoherence in telling his story because this time around, he did leave the climax bit until the end.

An update on Imran :
He turned four a few weeks back and since then he hates it when we say things like "Imran kecik lagi. Tunggu Imran besar ya?" He would loudly say that he is a BIG boy and to stop calling him budak kecik.
Last night I told him, being budak besar, it's time he sleeps in his own bed. (As it is now, he sleeps in our bed and once I am sure he is deep in his slumber, we move him to his bed, which is just next to ours. Occasionally, he will wake up and climb back into ours, much to my annoyance.)
Anyway, back to me telling him that big boys don't sleep with their mummies, he just smiled sheepishly and said : But why? Papa dah besar, why papa sleep with mummy?
:)

An update on Nina :

I never liked helping her out with her homework unless it's really necessary. Last week, when she came home from school and said rather dramatically that she could not believe that her geography teacher gave them only six days to do a news writing on the 2004 flood in Bangladesh and create a newspaper to fit that story in, I could not believe myself when I practically jumped from my seat and said, "hey, I can help you!"
Ha.. ha.. If I had my way, I would have written the entire thing myself but fearing that the teacher might suspect something (ce... I perasan I am a good journalist lah ni!), I asked her to give me her own sentences and I help edit them.And the amount of time I spent editing it felt like I was back at work doing my centrespead for Business Times (coming in to office before 7am etc!). Doing that homework of hers, I was transported back to my life as a reporter and for that few hours, I felt alive. :)

Morning Coffees

IN my previous life, my morning coffee referred to my quick sip of hot nescafe in the morning before I rushed to work and let me tell you, I was always rushing for work (no matter how late work started!), or if I missed that, it would mean nescafe ais in the office canteen with a plate of very oily combination of mee and bihun goreng, reading my favorite newspaper Harian Metro (yes, we got it early but only if I get to the office by 9am or else all free copies would have been snatched by the morning cleaners!). Or it could also mean, coffee in hotels waiting for my press function to start.

In this current life, morning coffee is a gathering of a group of ladies for 2-3 hours, eating away various kinds of food, courtesy of the ladies of course, and the host of the event. In my case, it never involved any coffee. It does involve some cooking/baking, arrival hugs, eating, chatting, eating, pictures taking, eating, laughing, eating,tapau-ing and lastly departing hugs.

This month, there have been too many of them. (May has always been my favourite month cos I am a May baby, and back in college, it meant summer holidays around the corner and a road trip was going to take place.) I think almost every week, got morning coffee. I have attended three, and declined two and it's only middle of May! And I wondered if the two invitations I declined, the host felt kecil hati. I hope not because it was really nothing personal. I had promised myself to go to the gym three times a week since April and more than anything else, I want to stick to it. Morning coffee kinda spoiled this plan of mine. So I said no to two.

One thing I noticed here is there are some ladies who never went to any morning coffees that I have attended. And from small talks and whispers, I kind of assumed they are a) not coffee drinkers, b) they'd rather drink coffee at home, c) they're not the pot-luck kind of people or d)they're just not game for the hugging, the eating and the picture taking thingy.

I wonder about these ladies...why are they a no-show? Maybe they have turned up at some events where I was a no-show but at events/gathering where I have attended, I have seen their husbands and children but never the wives.

I wonder about them... are they not happy here and their absence is like a sign of protest? Or are they too happy that they don't need to be around other people to feel more happy? I just wonder about them and sometimes wonder if I could be like them? Because sometimes I do like being all by myself. Can I be like them?

Now, let me get myself another cup of coffee, log on to Harian Metro website and as Ella the Rocker would say, ENJOYS my time alone.... one thing for sure... I miss my morning coffee at News Cafe. Alone.

DIFFERENCES

Sometime back, I was reading the Quran, wearing just my t-shirt and jeans, sitting comfortably on the sofa. Nina asked me why am I not covered (referring to my aurat) and I said I am in the comfort of home, plus I was too lazy to wear my hijab but quickly added, Allah will understand. ??? Why did I say that, I don't know. Not really a good answer to an 11-year old who was to look upon me as a role model (of some sort)!

A few weeks later, the same question was posed by a viewer of a talk show on the London-based Islamic Channel and the Ustaz responded it was ideal for us to cover our aurat out of respect for ALLAH as we are reading his BOOK. Just like we cover our aurat when we bow to Him in our prayers. He said IDEAL, he did not really say it is a MUST.
I still think I am not wrong in reading the Quran, uncovered. Maybe I am just being jahil here, but Islam does not burden its followers. I mean, there are times when we are in our own house and we feel like reciting some surahs that we know by heart just for the sake of it or before we go to sleep. I know I do. Do I have to reach for the hijab each time I want to do that? I don't know...

It's like when some of us commented how weird it is to see some women praying with their faces covered when in Islam, the aurat for women is all her body except the face and the palms of her hands. And then somebody commented to me once, what about when we wear our telekung, which most of the time is very long, thus covering our palms? Is that not the same as those heavily veiled women? I don't know... does anyone know if that's the same thing?

Since living here, I had begun to look at all this differently. We can't pass judgement on the way other Muslims conduct themselves. Here, come solat time, they pray regardless of where they are. They can stop the car by the roadside and do their prayers if they want to. I have seen that. Or on the roundabouts, or in parking lots. Or even in the aisle/hallway leading to a shopping mall's toilets! Or even in front of the entrance of a department store, despite the surau just a five-min walk away.

It's really interesting the way they carried on their lives as Muslims. Back home, outside our homes, we'd look for a clean place. preferably a surau to perform our solat. Some would prefer to Qada instead when they can't find the surau in a shopping mall or restaurants. Here, everywhere can be your praying ground. It opened my eyes to the beauty and simplicity of Islam and I love it!
In my compound gym, quite a number of times, I see the ladies, in their exercise gear, tight leotard and all, reading the Quran, while walking on the treadmill or cycling the bike. It's a refreshing sight and even that I loved!

Talking about refreshing, I want to digress a bit.
Amir came home from school today and immediately did his homework!! I was shocked. Rupa-rupanya he has a group presentation tomorrow in class and he is the group leader! The way he told me that he's got a presentation tomorrow like it's no biggie gitu! Like he has been doing this all his life... lol! Kat KL dulu, mana ada?
This compared to Nina who had her first solo presentation just two months after coming here and boy, was she a wreck!! She was so nervous even when she was preparing it at home. Even worst when she first stood in front of the class. Nasib baik the English teacher was so understanding and asked her to go back to her seat and make her presentation when she's emotionally ready. 20 mins later, she recovered from her shyness and fear and triumphed! Her "bravery" won her the Student of the Month award for Year 7.....

What's the point of this entry? I don't know but it feels good writing it all down.....:)